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Friday, July 23, 2010
5 Habits of a Healthy Marriage – Erma Bombeck
5 Habits of a Healthy Marriage – Erma Bombeck
“Guilt is the gift that keeps on giving,” says Bombeck. That’s not one gift you want to give your spouse – guilt is definitely not a habit of a healthy couple! But these are… 1. Learn to express anger, hurt, or frustration. An important part of married life is conflict resolution – and most couples aren’t trained to do this, says Ernest Harburg, professor emeritus at the University of Michigan. His research reveals that couples who suppress anger are twice as likely to face early death as those who express it. Getting mad without hurting your spouse is a healthy marriage habit that can improve your physical and emotional health. 2. Pick your green battles. Joining forces to affect your environment not only gives you a common goal and unites you as married couple, it’s good for the planet too. Choose an eco-battle together, such as adopting a nearby park and doing a weekly “garbage march.” Or plant a garden at home or in the community, focusing on organic fruits and veggies. Learn how to compost, and lighten the load in the landfills. Once your new behavior becomes a habit for your marriage, you can add another healthy habit – and soon you’ll be the greenest couple on the block! 3. End the day talking about your highs and lows. Make it a point to discuss the ups and downs in your marriage, family, and individual lives, and to look for the good in the bad. “During dinner we talk about what we enjoyed best and least that day,” says Tanya, a mother of three on Bowen Island, BC. “It’s a great way for our kids to listen to each other’s stories and problems, help find solutions, understand that we all experience ups and downs, relate to each other, laugh, and illustrate that life is like a rollercoaster.” 4. Make it a habit to volunteer as a married couple or family. “Contributing as a family not only helps [others], but it also strengthens the contributing family in the process,” writes Stephen Covey in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families. “Can you imagine the bonding, the sense of fulfillment, the sense of shared joy?” Volunteer opportunities include helping out annually at a camp for disabled kids, serving monthly at a food bank, or walking dogs weekly at an animal shelter. 5. Take risks and seek hidden treasure. A great habit for healthy marriages is trying new things together, such as juggling, geocaching for treasures, or making sushi. Psychology professor Leaf Van Boven from the University of Colorado explains why happiness is found in your life experiences (not your possessions). Experiences are open to positive reinterpretations, become a meaningful part of your identity, and contribute to successful relationships. When you experience something as a married couple – such as learning something new together – you build memories that you can reminisce and laugh about later. Those experiences unite you and become part of who you are as a married couple. A final quotation about marriage from Erma Bombeck: “People shop for a bathing suit with more care than they do a husband or wife,” said Erma Bombeck. “The rules are the same. Look for something you’ll feel comfortable wearing. Allow for room to grow.” Labels: Marriage
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
21 Ways to enjoy being a Mom
21 Ways to enjoy being a Mom
Credits to Parenting.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
A Survival Kit for Every Day
A Survival Kit for Every Day
Friday, December 26, 2008
Merry Christmas!
A day after Christmas... Tired, bored and happy. Christmas Eve is not exciting as last year. I consider this year as the most boring maybe because I did not enjoy it the fact that we're complete and this is the first Christmas with my 2nd boy Gabriel. I admit that I really enjoyed the season by buying gifts and giving it to our relatives. For some reasons, nakatulog kami when the clock strikes 12am. My sons are tired and sleepy. They play all day kasi and we already opened the gift as early as 8pm para gising pa sila. And birthday din ng nephew ko, Jacob, who turns 1 year old on Christmas Eve. Kaya the food was prepared for two reasons. Haayy... This year was a blast! Vince turns two, I gave birth to Gab, I just turned 22 years old, and now tapos na ang taon?!?! Grabe... Next year will be another blast for all of us. This year was full of blessing and excitement. Trials maybe around but Lord will never leave us without support. He'll be there to comfort us and guide us what ever happen.
Monday, December 8, 2008
My Sons' Christmas Wishlist
To all the Ninongs and Ninangs of Vincent and Gabriel,
these are the stuff that we would really appreciate because these are what they need and like.. for Vince: - bike (or pocket bike) * - 'pambahay clothes' (his cabinet is overflowing with 'pang-alis') - educational books and CDs/DVDs (currently, he likes Barney) and Barney stuff - classical music CDs like Baby Mozart, etc. - cash (for his savings) for Gab - walker * - classical music CDs like Baby Mozart, etc. - educational toys (ung walang melamine at lead content...) - cash (for his savings) for Dru - mini laptop or PDA or O2 XDA Exec (mini laptop pda phone) * - nokia 5800 or N97 * - iPod Touch - Sony touchscreen digital camera - PSP - LCD Tv - Asus eee Box - CASH!!!!! * - CASH!!!!! * - CASH!!!!! * - CASH!!!!! * (i love cash...) *preferred or just contact us for questions and inquiries <0927-346-0713> Thanks much and God bless...
Saturday, December 6, 2008
The Order of Obedience
A parent’s predicament
“How do you make a child obey?” This is one of the most popular questions and in fact, challenges, that parents and educators face today. Every time I conduct a training seminar, I am asked: Don’t you just wish you could order obedience from a child in a snap? Ordering obedience is more difficult than childbirth because it takes many years to guide a child to obedience. We are not talking about several hours of labor pain here. We are talking about years of daily discipline, hair-whitening, wrinkle-forming and life-changing experiences of a parent to order obedience from his/her child. Would you like to know a time-tested, tried and proven technique? Posing an invite to you like that may sound like an infomercial but I am not kidding. This one really works. It comes with a catch though. The first requirement is that the adult exacting obedience from the child has to be “right.” You got it. Yes, I said it right. You have to be “right” to make the child obey the right way. If a parent thinks and acts right, then words that will come out of him/her will be right—uplifting and positive. This is the essential yet most difficult step of obedience. It begins with you, as a parent. Steps to obedience The next step is a series of listening skills exercises. Listening is a prerequisite to obedience. One cannot obey if one cannot listen. Do you know how these words are related to each other? The word “obey” comes from the Latin word “oboedir” which means “pay attention to or give ear.” Literally, this means, “to listen to.” “Ob” means “to” and “oedir” or “audire” means “listen.” So the word “obey” actually requires an audience who listens. To listen is to “actively engage in paying attention to something.” It is synonymous to obeying. The theme of my school is “Listen and Obey” which is actually based on the Bible. God promised success to the Israelites if they “listen and obey” (Deuteronomy 5 and 6). In reality, success in life comes to those who live this principle. If you realize the significance of listening to yield obedience, you will be convinced that your voice has to be attractive in giving out commands. It’s not only the tone that matters but how a request is uttered. You, as a parent, need to learn some basics of marketing. If you want to entice your children to obey, speak to their heart and build them up. Make them want to follow you. This obedience training begins much earlier than the child’s birth into the world. A babe in the womb has to get used to your loving voice. Practice a consistent, loving tone until the child grows and matures. Adults tend to think toddlers are difficult to train. The secret lies in speaking positive words, knowing the psychology of the child and applying brain-based learning. The first thing I do in training toddlers to follow me is understand and observe a toddler’s behavior. Once I am able to predict some of his behavior, I speak out what the tyke is about to do. For example, if he is about to walk, I will say, “Let’s walk.” If the child wants to do his toilet thing, I say, “Let’s go to the bathroom.” When the child is looking for his milk, before he cries, I would say, ”It’s time to drink your milk. Please wait.” As you say such statements which the child is actually about to do, cooperation happens and the child does what he is inclined to do. This is the very first step in “Listen and Obey” training. The child hears your voice and does what you say, even if he is about to do it anyway, without you saying it. You are the child’s ally, not his enemy. You are after his interest so he develops an interest in you. Train the child to like your voice. Train the child to do what you say so he gets used to “following” you peacefully and joyfully without a power struggle. This is the first order of obedience. By Marita Villafuerte of Baby Central Labels: Baby Central, Discipline, Marita Villafuerte |