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Saturday, June 23, 2007
Things You Should't Say to Your Child

Common verbal blunders and slip-ups parents make, and kinder alternatives to help you

through tough situation.

Parents don't always mean what they let out. There may even be times when parents don't

realize how damaging their words an be until it's too late. What may seem like an utterly

innocent remark said in calm manner can become hurtful and detrimental when said in

anger.

A Psychologist stresses that kids are vulnerable; the words we say to them play a big part in

shaping who they will become - their attitudes, their thought, and their character.

Psychologist Ycasiano and Bautista give us a rundown of the things you should never say to

your kids, including gentler alternatives you can use - even when you desperately think that

your patience has reached the end of its rope.

1. "Bad Girl!" or "You're so _______!"

Effect on a child: You're the one who encourage them to take on the role and proudly prove

their spunk and attitude every chance they get. This kind of labelling can become a

self-fulfilling prophecy. The worse the labels, the deeper they cut through a child's

self-worth.

What you can say: Emphasize to them that it was the deed or action - not the child - that was

offensive and intolerable. Remember, actions can be corrected, but a dented self-esteem will

be difficult to mend.

2. "Not now, I'm Busy"

Effect on a child: When kids always hear these statements from you, they will soon think that

you doesn't have the time to talk to or be with them. They will hesitate to approach you and

will indeed leave you alone even without your prompting - until you realize your child has

drifted too far away from you.

What you can say: This is not easy to pull off, but with practice and discipline, it can be done.

Just make sure you set realistic expectations: a toddler and a preschooler aren't likely to keep

quiet or amuse themselves for a whole hour.

3. "Why can't you be more like your Kuya?"

Effect on a child: Comparing your younger child to the older sibling ar anyon else for that

matter implies that you wish your child were different. The kids get confused when they are

pressered to do something they are nt ready for or don't like to do.

What you can say: Encourageyour child's current achievements instead of pushing her to be

another person. Kids develop at their own pace and have characteristics that are uniquely

their own. Comparisons do not help change or correct misbehavior; the only sting a child's

confidence.

4. "You should know better than that!"

Effect on a child: Parents sometimes carelessly critize their kids, be it o appearance,

intelligence, clumnsiness, or confidence. It affects the child's self-esteem, thus impairing his

ability to think straight, make clear judgements, or do what's right next time.

What you can say: Give a specific and more positive remarks. They try and fail, and then they

try again, because learning is a process. Acknowledge what was done appropriately, and

point out what nedds to be corrected using simple and specific instructions.

5. "Stop crying! You want me to spank you?"

Effect on a child: Threats are rarely effective, more so if the threat only confuses the child

with its irony. How can a child stop crying if she continues to fear she will get hurt? Toddlers

especially, have no way to express sadness, pain, fear, anger or frustration other than crying

because they have yet articulate these feelings.

Ordering a child to stop expressing strong emotions sends the message that it's not okay to

be sad, angry, or scared.

What you can say: It is important to acknowledge the child's emotions when you feel there's

something wrong. it takes longer for kids ages 3 to 4 to talk about what's bothering them.

6. "I'm going to tell your dad what you did when he gets home!"

Effect on a child: When all else fails, the absent parent is used to scare off the misbehaving

kid. This guarantees two things: 1) the present parent's authority is diffused while the other

parent becomes the scary villain, and 2) the discipline intended for the child's misbehavior is

postponed.

This will only gives the impression that Mom needs Daddy to deal with discipline issues all

the time. Delaying the consequences of your child's misbehavior makes very young kids

forget what they did wrong, thus making it difficult for them to associate the misdeed with

the consequences.

What you can say: Deal with the misbehavior yourself by explaining to your child what

specific act was improper. Parents have to keep in mind what values they want for their child.

Friday, June 22, 2007
DiLLemas

Nothing to worry about cause God is beside us...

Sobrang busy ko for this past few days to the point na hindi na ko nakakapag-post dito sa blogs ko. Im so into Photoshop and Paint shop pro... I love downloading some brushes, textures, patterns and gradients.. Why?! Because I love to make our photos more beautiful and colorful.

My husband lost our photos sa Hard disk from 2004 up to present to the point na hanggang panaginip e masama ang loob ko. haaaaayyyy... Badtrip na Hard Disk un... Memories ko ung tinanggal... hmmp!!!

Regarding kay Vincent: His Birthday was a blast!!!! Daming gifts and everything. Everyone was busog and Happy... You can take a sneak sa Multiply ni Vince.

Dami ko pa kwento pero I have no time.. Till next time dear reader of mine... whahahahaha!!!!